En konferens om relationsvåld skall hållas i Toronto i början av juni. Det som är lite annorlunda är att konferensen handlar om relationsvåld som en humanitär fråga – inte en könsspecifik fråga. Sålunda behandlas både våld mot män och mot kvinnor, liksom hur barnen drabbas av relationsvåld.
Det finns flera bra artiklar på deras websajt. Jag vill speciellt uppmärksamma den senaste:
The Real Gap Between Men and Women Isn’t the Pay Gap: It’s the Empaty Gap, av Rich Harold. Här ett utdrag:
As people, we have become utterly desensitized to the ideas of male suffering. This is evidenced by the obvious fact that the overwhelming majority of homeless people are men. The majority of suicide victims are men. The majority of combat victims are men. The majority of assault and homicide victims are men. The majority of workplace deaths are also men. In almost every category, where people are hurt, abused, or victimized, it is men—not women—who suffer most.
As a society, we place immense expectations on men’s shoulders. They are the protectors, the breadwinners, the builders, the fixers. They keep the lights on, keep the water running and are encouraged, at almost every point to never complain, to never ask for help or to never admit that they might have a problem. Men are told to “suck it up” to “man up” when they fail to meet the expectations demanded of them.
Little wonder then, that there are no services for men in need. We’ve shamed men into fearing to come forward to tell their stories. We’ve shamed men into thinking that the abuses they suffer and the needs that they have must always come second. Society would stop functioning, after all….
It’s time for that to stop.
Society will not stop functioning because we allow ourselves to recognize men’s needs. Society won’t collapse under its own weight because rather than telling men to “get over it” we take some time to pause, and to listen. If anything, our society will be all the better for it; we’ll move one step closer to a society that’s truly inclusive and accepting.