The Atlantic – Ann-Mari Slaugther ”Why women still cant have it all”
Only recently have I begun to appreciate the extent to which many young professional women feel under assault by women my age and older. After I gave a recent speech in New York, several women in their late 60s or early 70s came up to tell me how glad and proud they were to see me speaking as a foreign-policy expert. A couple of them went on, however, to contrast my career with the path being traveled by “younger women today.” One expressed dismay that many younger women “are just not willing to get out there and do it.” Said another, unaware of the circumstances of my recent job change: “They think they have to choose between having a career and having a family.”
The Spearhead – Ethical ”The missing ingredient to Women´s Happiness”
For all the debate sparked in the popular media by Anne-Marie Slaughter’s article “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” published a few months ago in The Atlantic, aside from the demur musings of the occasional establishment poodle, men have been utterly excluded from the discussion. Some men will shrug ambivalently, but for a growing number, particularly the half of formerly married men in Ms. Slaughter’s generation who have experienced divorce, why there’s no room for our opinions on this issue is a question of growing concern.
The Spearhead – WF Price ”Ann-Marie Slaughter grasping at straws in ”have it all” article”
”Unfortunately, Slaughter can’t seem to see the issue through to its logical conclusion, instead clinging to the notion that more social engineering will deliver women into the magical promised land of limitless opportunity. She takes what could have been a helpful article putting things in their proper perspective for women who have to make a choice between family and career, and turns it into a feminist crusade for more power, more control, more everything.”
WF Price konstaterar det absurda med hur feminstiska artiklar i media numera regelbundet har budskapet att män måste hjälpa kvinnorna ”få allt” Svaret blir att män inte skulle kunna ge kvinnor ”it all” ens om de ville för män är bara människor ”mere mortals” . Vidare så är frågan varför män skulle vilja det när det enda det leder till är mer krav?
”There is nothing more telling about this article than that it both begins and ends with demands for support from men. That’s feminism in a nutshell: “We want it all, so you have to give it to us! Well, here’s a little dose of reality for feminists: we couldn’t give you all you wanted even if we tried. We are mere mortals, and we recognize that. Furthermore, we are starting to recognize that the more we give you the more you’ll want, and we’re getting tired.”
Uppdatering: Time Ideas – Touré ”Men never had it all”
”When I’m at work and away from my kids, my heart aches as I look at the pictures my wife texts me. Here we are eating ice cream in the park! Look at us with the Easter bunny! Aren’t they cute in this little pool?! Meanwhile, I’m alone in a quiet office trying to finish my next book or preparing for tomorrow’s show. But when I’m with them, I can’t totally forget about the work I could be doing to help give them everything they need.”
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Den här observationen från Ethical var rätt bra:
Spearhead artikeln var helt strålande, evigheter jag sist läste något så bra någonstans.
Och den (iaf den ena) fanns redan i kommentarsfältet här. Med andra ord är det en bra idé (praxis) att så snart vi ser bra länkar i kommentarerna ”lyfta upp” dem till egna inlägg. Läsare av den här bloggen får tillgång till länkarna även när vi inte har tid att skriva den sorts analyser Aktivarum är mest känd för.
Erik
Dennatyckte jag var super.
@ Ninni:
Absolut, den artikeln var mycket intressant.
We all want it all, but none of us can have it…
/ schmucken
Det här tankespåret tycker jag är intressant:
”Incredibly, having robbed her of responsibility and having seen that the desired ends hadn’t been achieved, feminism doubled down and continued to try to absolve her of even more responsibility in the mistaken idea that doing so would finally achieve empowerment. But rather than being empowering, removing all our responsibility turns us into spoiled and entitled children with less and less ability to control our outcomes, and therefore less ability to find the contentment we desire.”
Feminismen är en evighetsmaskin vad gäller att skapa missnöje och att hindra de missnöjda att uppnå förnöjsamhet.
Jag håller på mycket med yoga och min indiske lärare brukar betona vikten av att skilja mellan begär och behov. Vilket är något som Ethical berör:
”Conversely women like Slaughter are rarely ones who want for any basic necessities. And they are wholly mislead in the belief their situation is representative of other women. The kind of luxury presumed as the birthright of all women in this age of consumption has never been realistically attainable by even a sizeable minority of women (or men) at any time throughout human history. In fact even today for people of any gender who are searching for well-being and contentment, a common element of spiritual practice in all religions and for the non-religious in all meditative or psychological therapies, is detaching from love of the material and acknowledgement of thankfulness instead. Rather than allowing ourselves to believe we need some possession or outcome and not allowing ourselves to be happy until we get it, having a sense of well-being in our historically ‘without infinite wealth’ existences has always meant being grateful for whatever little we already have. It has also meant honoring our gifts. In other words “we must tend our to gardens”; we must devote ourselves to carrying out our duties to the best of our abilities in order to derive satisfaction from them.”
Just den sista meningen är en bärande idé i Bhagavad-Gita:
”Your right is in action only, never to the fruits;
let not the fruit of action be your motive
nor let your attachment be to inaction.”
30 andra översättningar av citatet finns här: http://newbhagavadgita.blogspot.com/
second that (dvs +1)
bytte design innan jag såg din kommentar om den snygga designen Erik
”problemet” (problemet) med den förra var ju att det inte syntes vem som hade publicerat inlägget.
En sak till btw, Ang. att lyfta artiklar, är att det kanske vore bra att ta med vilken signatur som länkade till den? Så att de i kommentarsfältet är delaktiga och presenteras
Bra förslag, jag lade till tipstack på inlägget om ”have it all”
Mycket intressant argument. Det är bra att se att debatten sprider över hela världen.
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